Sex in our society has become downplayed as just a penetrative moment of fun-fillment amongst our youngsters .On few know little or nothing about the incredible dangers of SEX.Below is a list of the dangers that are always
present when sex is outside of marriage. Not everything listed necessarily
happens to everyone, in every sexual experience. However, all of them are very
real possibilities and do happen on a regular basis to teens and adults alike.
There are too many of them to take lightly and it is impossible to dodge all
consequences. And thinking that some of them won’t affect you and your future
marriage in powerful ways — that's a lie.
Perhaps more importantly, consider that these
consequences will not only affect you. Every time you have premarital sex, you
are putting your partner in a situation where they can experience any or all of
the following consequences. How loving or caring is it to put people in
emotional, spiritual, intellectual and physical danger? True love wants what is
best for the other; endangering someone, for any reason, is not love. How would
you like to be responsible for putting them through a great deal of unnecessary
hurt? How satisfied would you be if their future marriage goes through serious
problems because sex isn’t as important or intimate as it should be? Sex
without any possible regrets can only be experienced in
marriage. Outside of marriage, there is always the risk. Are you willing to
risk yourself or the one you’re with to experience ANY of the following?
Emotional (Psychological) Traps of Premarital
Sex:
1.
Worry about pregnancy,
STDs, and AIDS
2.
Regret
3.
Guilt
4.
Loss of self-respect and
lowered self-esteem
5.
Devalued Sex
6.
Shaken trust in
relationships and fear of commitment
7.
Hurt and anger over
betrayal
8.
Depression and suicide
9.
Ruined relationships
10.
Stunted personal development
11.
Difficulty evaluating
future spouse: when a couple is physical, especially to the degree of having
sex, they tend to become partially blinded to each other’s failings and often
only focus on someone’s good traits. Have you ever heard something like “He’s
really not that bad... He’s a great guy when he’s not cheating on me.” There
are many rationalizations that can take place so that some people feel
justified in staying in unhealthy relationships. In marriage, this partial
blindness can be very good, as it helps couples overcome minor problems before
they tear each other apart. Outside of marriage, minor problems are often
hidden major problems that couples refuse to deal with. When you are sexually
active with someone, you are not at a good place to evaluate someone’s
character. This can lead to a devastating marriage decision.
Spiritual Traps of Premarital Sex:
1. Ghosts in
Marriage: When a person engages in physical relationships before they get
married, these sexual experiences become a part of his or her marriage as well
— because you share your soul with each sexual partner, whether you intend to
or not. Comparisons to lovers of the past can undermine the intimacy of a
marriage and can make a couple feel as though others contribute to their
private sharing of intercourse. Perhaps you’ve compared yourself to a boyfriend
or girlfriend’s exes, wondering if you are as attractive, or as smart, or as
fun to spend time with. Can you imagine how much more painful those comparisons
would be if you knew their previous relationships were sexual? Now can you
imagine how difficult it would be to live with those sexual comparisons for the
rest of your life? It’s a much happier, healthier marriage when a couple learns
to navigate sexual experiences together, without the ghosts of past
relationships haunting them.
2. Isolation from
God: If someone’s relationship with God is even remotely important to them,
premarital sex is something that could shatter his or her faith life.
Premarital sex is a serious, mortal sin for all Judeo-Christian faiths. When we
sin, we are stepping away from God and His awesome plan for our lives. It’s
such a grave sin because it causes so much damage to our hearts, minds, and
souls. God created sex to be a fulfilling, life-long gift of self to the other
– and it is only in marriage that sex can be what it should be. For many,
committing this sin leads to them to believe that God can’t love them anymore,
and they walk away from Him – which is such a lie! We are taught that God is
the source of true, unconditional love and He will always forgive us. But when
we choose to engage in premarital sex, we choose to walk away from God – from
what should be the most important, most loving relationship we have. Many
abandon their faith entirely to rationalize their desire to enjoy sex outside
of marriage. How willing are you to walk away from God? Are you willing to risk
the salvation of yourself or your partner?
When you choose to save sex for marriage,
you avoid all the negatives listed above. But if you’re dealing with any of
these consequences from sexual activity, or already have gone too far
physically, there is still hope. You can start fresh to and avoid many of these
dangers from this point on through the gift of starting over – you can have a second chance.