4/16/2015

UNFUFILLING RELATIONSHIP?

  Dating always starts on nice or embarrassing note but this does not determine It’s end, it’s a beautiful thing to  be with the one you love and loves you in return as you would wish, swear, you would never leave them alone, we fall in and out of relations so often we sometimes lose count of how many, did you just mutter only 5, well that is a number if it’s a thing to boast of may be 10,15 and inflation's begin hahaha, I can remember my first don't you?
  Some relationships has lead to love, blissful marriages, other to depression, death, injuries, unwanted, pregnancy, war  the list is endless
We get into relationships because we are lonely, there is a space inside of us that only that special person can fill. But in a desperate bid to fill that hole, a lot of mistakes can and has been made. 
When getting into a relationship, what are the things you consider? Sometimes we just enter a relationship because we are bored or because we want the romance we see in movies to happen to us.
But the reality is always a shocker. Who says that person is going to be exactly what you have imagined he or she would be to you? 
We are all human beings and we all have our definition of what a relationship should be. But if your definition does not match that of your partner, then you are in for a very sorrowful relationship.
Let's get practical: supposing you like are the open type who can discuss anything in front of anyone without feeling embarrassed but your partner isn't. This would cause a lot of friction and disagreements and lead to unhappiness. 
Let's face it. For us to be happy or fulfilled in a relationship, we must have to let go of every pre-conceived notion of what a relationship should look like and start to adjust to our partners. Some couples discuss money. Others don't. Leave it alone. Some couples can have relationships with the opposite sex without any jealousy. ‎Don't judge. Don't be that annoying voice that will always tell a person that you saw his boyfriend or girlfriend hanging out with somebody else. That's just rude and is always never appreciated. 
A relationship is like a house you live in. It was designed and built by somebody else. If you don't like it, design and build one of your own that would suit you perfectly. So while it's good to dream and fantasize about the perfect relationship, it's also important to wake up and build your relationship to what you want it to look like.



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